“Acceptance” literally means as the act of taking something that is offered. We all want to be accepted in our lives by everyone around us. If someone disapproves of us or tries to change the way we are then it pinches and makes us feel uncomfortable. It’s obviously nothing different for people who are differently abled. Generally, we don’t even like to communicate or be around people where we don’t feel accepted.
Let’s talk about Autism here. In my researches, I have found that when people find out about Autism then the first reaction is to not accept it. Many a times, people especially parents of little kids are in the phase of denial for a very long time. They are not ready to accept that they or their child is not what they had expected to be.
Usually it’s always the mother of the child who will notice if her child is growing differently than other kids of his/her age. I would like to share a few stories here that I experienced when I worked closely with families going through this denial phase.
A mother shared, “When my child was around 14-18 months I started to see that there was something different about him. I told my husband but he was not ready to accept and said that it wasn’t right for me to compare my child with someone else. I should let him grow at his pace. When I told my parents and a few friends they said I was being that competitive and pushy mother who forced her child to grow.”
She added, “I lost 6 months of time just to convince my husband to get our son at least evaluated by a doctor.”
Another mother pooled in, “My husband and friends said, our son will be fine, don’t compare and will grow out of it. And I kept saying no, I wasn’t comparing but there was obviously something different about my son.” Further she said, “It took over a year for me to convince my husband for changing the diet of our son, in order to treat him.”
A third family shared that “Our son got 7 vaccines within 3 days and I immediately told my husband that our son wasn’t the same child as he was before the vaccines. My husband took over 6 months to get where I was.”
So let me tell you that staying in denial doesn’t solve the problem. Accepting that you, or your child has Autism or any other issue and immediately acting upon is going to solve your problems. The time wasted in denial could very well be used towards the treatment. Parents please come out of this bubble. Just for your own comfort level and your expectations you cannot spoil the future of your child. I know it’s difficult to accept the truth but it’s much more lighter than carrying the burden of struggle. Once you accept the truth about Autism, it will be challenging in the beginning. But with passing time you will be surprised to be at more peace than struggle. Acceptance is Peace. And this peace of mind will lead you towards being stronger. It’s important to accept the truth so that you don’t lose out on the time.
Be strong, accept it and positively move towards solving the problem. Also, accepting doesn’t mean you have to keep reminding yourself everyday about the problem or announcing to the whole world about it. You could very well keep it to yourself and still believe in your child and all that he could be like you have always done. You never know, your belief; positive energy and faith could lead you to a great path of recovery.
Now accepting that you or your child is suffering from a lot of discomfort and attempting to cure is not trying to change the person you are or your child is. We are stressing on healing. It’s just like we try to heal from any other disease to being a healthier human being. Acceptance is moving a step closer to “The Great Autism Recovery” (www.greatautismrecovery.com)
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